Herbert Mensah

Giving life without claiming authority,
benefiting without demanding gratitude,
guiding without control.
This is called Hidden Virtue.

Lao Tzu

1..love is best measured by what it does and not only what is said.
2. Anyone is capable of anything, but it doesn’t need to be accepted or tolerated.
3. Pain is temporary, but it doesn’t need to consume one’s mind.
4. The quickest way to get over a lover is to find another.
5. Cheaters are inclined to repeat until they face romantic defeat.
6. More than one soulmate is possible and probable.
7. It is important to love yourself more than anything else.
8. Pride should not be set aside to chase a lover that wishes to hide.
9. A strong mind is worth more than any lover you can find.
10. A lover should always convince you why they are worthy of your love.
11. Hoping for change can simply prolong the pain without realizing any gain.
12. A lover does not need to necessarily need to know how deep the pain can go.
13. Desperation never fixes unrequited love or infatuation.
14. Self-respect is a boundary we should all strive to protect.
15. We are all deserving of a love that is real, constant, unconditional and true.
16. Never fear requiring truth or asking for proof.
17. Never doubt your own worth.
18. The beauty of sex is that it has no limits or context, but we can all have and deserve what we expect. There is no good reason to settle for less.
19. Your body is solely your own, so don’t give it freely to anyone who isn’t worthy.
20. Focus on other things besides a lover who you may be sharing with another.
21. If you can’t completely love yourself, then do not expect it of anyone else.
22. A lover will do what is believed to be acceptable to you. They can’t stay if you decide to walk away.
23. Don’t be afraid to move on when all faith, hope and truth is gone.
24. Fear of rejection does not lead us to a relationship worthy of protection.
25. Mending a broken heart is difficult if it is continuously torn apart.
26. If a lover can completely control your will, then a relationship will not likely find a way to allow heartache and pain to heal.
27. There is nothing wrong with a background check, as falling in love doesn’t need to be foolish just because there’s a feeling of connection.
28. Keep your best interests in mind when deciding someone is worthy of your time.
29. Love can be misunderstood and still remain good. But, it cannot remain at its best if it’s a constant and trying test.
30. A good love has minimal strife and helps you to live a good life.

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”

– Charles R. Swindoll –

Introversion brings empowerment of the self. Just as a tortoise withdraws from the external environment after its work is done, we too need to find time for ourselves. Amidst the activity of the day, we need to make time to look within and find the beauty that is hiddenthere. When we do this as a practice it brings a positive experience that empowers the self. We need to give ourselves a little time everyday at regular intervals. During this time, we need to look within and find our own uniqueness and we will find that we are ableto have access to our positivity. This practice will help us during a difficult time too and we will be able to use these qualities under all circumstances. So we will not be a victim to situations but will be able to give what is required at that time.